Society kinda teaches us to outsource our power from a really early age.
Like… the education system especially. Get it right, look for the answer, wait to be told if it’s good enough. Repeat that for 12+ years and it’s no wonder we end up second guessing ourselves all the time.
And then as women… it gets layered on even more.
Be nice.
Be easy to be around.
Don’t be too much.
Don’t make it awkward.
Keep the peace.
Don’t make a fuss.
So we learn to smooth things over.
To say “it’s fine” when it’s not.
To laugh things off instead of calling them out.
To go along with something just to avoid tension.
And after a while… you don’t even realise you’re doing it.
You just think that’s who you are.
You see it in the small stuff.
Typing out a message… and then changing it so it sounds nicer.
Wanting to say something… and then holding back.
Knowing what you want… and still asking someone else what they think first.
So I’m curious…
Where are you doing that in your own life?
Where are you looking outside of yourself for permission?
Where are you holding back what you actually think?
Where are you choosing comfortable over true?
Because once you see it… you can’t really unsee it.
And that’s where it shifts.
Because then it becomes a choice.
And if we’re going to stand up for women… for women’s rights… for the things that matter to us…
it starts here.
With us.
With actually tapping into our own power first.
Because we are absolutely way more capable than we’ve been led to believe.